What I Learned in 2025 (part 2)

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All right, here we go.

Picking up where we left off, we're going to be giving you part two this week of what

we learned in 2025.

Not everything, but just some things that we had to remind ourselves of, something that

we've already learned, that we relearn in 2025.

So part two coming at you live.

Let's go.

Next one would be making big decisions.

When you're making big decisions, take a deep breath and think.

Take your time.

If you have the opportunity to take your time, sometimes you don't have the opportunity

you've got to think fast, and I get it.

Then you've got to do the best that you can do with the experience that you got and

the talent level that you got.

But if it's not a rush, if it's not something you must rush to, what I've learned is it's

best to take your time.

And with a calm mind and cool head and well thought out situation and plan, then you

go out there and execute.

Part of making big decisions is you can't take things personal, either.

Like there's decisions you've got to make, and you've got to make business decisions,

not personal decisions.

And there's times where you win.

But by the decision that you're making, you win, but it may seem like you're losing to

others.

Like on the outside it looks like you're losing, but you're really winning.

Even in your heart, you're like, man, I wish I could do this.

I feel like I'm losing, but you know you're winning and you end up winning.

And then there's other times where you lose, but on the outside it looks like you're winning.

And you feel good temporarily.

Like, yeah, I want it.

Like, man, that person said this, I just smacked him in the face.

You know, whatever it was.

You want for the moment.

You feel better for the moment.

But did you really win two weeks from today, a year from today?

Did you really win and pass on the test that God just handed you so he could have blessed

you with some more things that you failed to test?

Did you really win or did you just temporarily win?

Because a lot of times your biggest wins, you've got to feel like you're losing temporarily.

And a lot of times your biggest loss as you feel like you're winning temporarily.

And it's not giving into those moments.

Next one would be competitive drive.

We'll keep you going.

Find a way to have it.

Meaning, if you have a competitive nature to you and not everybody does, but if you do,

don't lose it.

Because in my experience, that's what keeps you going.

Not long ago.

I watched the Steelers and the Lions play in the Steelers.

What a crazy game they win the game.

Aaron Rodgers gets interviewed after.

And he says, nobody believed in us.

Nobody thought we were going to win.

Nobody believed.

Nobody thought we were going to win.

I mean, my dude's 42 years old.

I think 40 years old.

Been playing the game forever.

Still chip on his shoulder.

People didn't believe in him.

People didn't believe that they were going to win.

They were underdog.

People gave, you know, a former Super Bowl winning quarterback, possibly a hall of

fame or probably a hall of fame or an Aaron Rodgers.

They gave him seven points.

You know, they didn't believe in him.

And so that competitive drive is what's going to keep you going.

If you could find a way to put that chip on your shoulder.

So what ways do you need to be motivated this year?

What ways can you create a narrative in your mind?

That is true.

But create the narrative of who don't believe in you?

Where are the chips down?

Or can you get competitive to bring the best out of yourself?

Next thing, it's critical to have good advisors in all areas of your life.

So think about areas of your life.

You could have health, finances, relationships, spiritual, parenting.

There's like all these different levels and areas of your life that you can have coaches

and mentors.

And I think it's critical to have good coaches, mentors, and advisors in all these areas

of your life.

But you got to be humble enough to ask for help when you're in need.

Like you may be able to ask for help from your workout trainer to get yourself in shape.

But you don't want to ask for help from your spiritual advisor when you're down.

Or you don't want to ask for help from somebody that can help you as a parent, but you'll

ask for help in boxing.

You know what I mean?

So you got to humble yourself and look at yourself right now and say, all right, do I have

advisors, mentors, and coaches in critical areas of my life?

If not, why not?

Is it a lack of humility?

Do you think you got it all figured out?

Do you think you're old enough now?

You don't need any advice from anybody else that has wisdom and counsel?

Even people your age, you know, it's like, man, when I make some big business decisions,

there's, I have a, people don't even know they're on my committee, but they're on my advisor,

they're on my advisory board.

When I got to make business decisions of like, all right, let me get my little committee

together.

Bounce this off them bounce this off them bounce that off them.

All right, boom.

You have to write decision.

I can't imagine not having that and I can't imagine how some people function without having

that because there's been a lot of decisions I would have made that would have been the

wrong decision had I not been surrounded by good counsel and I got 20 years of experience

and I got a winning track record and I do talk to the Lord and I do try to read books

and I do and it's still ain't good enough.

It's still ain't good enough.

It wasn't good enough.

I don't think it's ever going to be good enough.

So my opinion is go get yourself some good advisors.

One, injuries, physical and mental injuries are a part of life in the journey.

Man I really over time that would be a passion of mine to try to help people because I feel

bad.

I'm watching young kids.

You watch kids that work so hard in the off season and then they get injured and then

they miss the whole season.

They're out.

They miss six games.

There's only 10 games.

This kid worked so hard all year and then all of a sudden he can't play the last few

games of his year and he's so sad and he's so down.

The same thing happens to people as adults and the same thing happens to business and

the same thing happens in life.

What you got to do in that mindset is to understand that it's a part of the game.

Everybody's going to have their opportunity to be injured.

Yours might happen then.

There's may happen down the road.

You've got to be competitive about am I going to let this stop me or am I going to let this

fuel me?

Am I going to let this block me or am I going to let this motivate me?

Oh you thought this injury was going to be what made me quit.

You thought this injury was what was going to make me stop.

You thought this injury was what was going to break me.

Is there other areas while I'm taking care of my injury that I can get better?

My arms are injured.

Now I'm going to make my legs stronger than ever before.

My legs are injured.

I'm going to make my arms stronger than before.

I can't do too much with my body.

My knee and my upper body's injured.

Okay.

Spiritually and mentally I'm going to go to a whole different place and I'm going to tighten

up my diet, my nutrition and my diet is going to be better than ever before.

How can I find an advantage in the midst of a disadvantage?

How can I find where I can grow even when I'm put on temporary leave of absence for three

months, for six months?

What is it that I can grow from and learn from here that when they thought that you were

supposed to be down, that's an area that you lift yourself up?

First thing would be being yourself feels so good.

Being yourself.

You know like when you're not being yourself and when you're being yourself and then you

got people that are so fake, they're never themselves and then you got people that are

they're like, man, I'm just myself, they're just being me and you may even respect some

of that person's thing but you know sometimes that's dumb, right?

Of I'm just, well I'm just being me, I'm just, there's just times where being you is inappropriate.

It's just not, if that's you, if that's what you're doing, I'm just saying, I'm just

what you got to work with.

If that's what you'll come up produced, I respect it but there's a time and a place for

everything and so but being yourself feels so good but understand there's times where

you need to be a chameleon.

You got to be able to blend in.

You got to be able to adapt.

You got to be able to evolve.

You can't just be, oh this is just the way I am.

This is just the way I am.

Some of your great traits maybe but like I think we need to evolve and adapt in the way

you are today.

You might need to be a better version of yourself 10 years from today.

You can't just stand on the same rule that you've already had in all areas of life.

Maybe some things but not in everything.

In my experience, there's times where you need to be a chameleon and realize what you

need to change but when I say it feels so good to be yourself, just put yourself in situations

where you can be yourself and not be penalized as often as you possibly can.

That'll probably bring you the most joy.

Is be you just keep building the best version of yourself and so you know it's like well

that's just the way I am.

You need to be a better version of yourself in 24 months so you can be the way that you

are.

But if you want to be you, understand where you can't be you.

Or sometimes where you can't just full fledged all out, let it rip, be you in all areas

and I know that might not be popular to hear words like, oh not you should always keep

it real.

You ever see the videos where keeping it real goes wrong.

They had a video.

It's like where keeping it real goes wrong.

You can keep it real but you also can get your ass fired.

Now do you feel better?

That's the goes back to the scenario of well you thought you were winning and seemed

like you're winning temporarily but you're really losing down the road.

And so I think just put yourself in environments and keep working towards a life where you

could be the fool, like fruition of who it is that you are so you don't have to be in

a lot of environments where you're not being yourself but as often as you possibly can

without harming yourself be you.

Okay.

Next one.

You get the faster that time goes.

For people that are my age or older you already know what I'm talking about.

You already know what it is but those you that are listening to this that are in your

20s.

I didn't believe it either.

When people told me it's going to go fast man.

I remember being 26, 25.

Man.

I don't know how I just turned 42 years old.

I mean that don't even make no sense.

I don't even think I could turn 42 years old.

I thought I was going to be young for so long.

It's not even the older you get the faster this time goes.

So just embrace the moments and embrace the journey.

Next one.

You can't trust the news.

I learned this when you can't trust the news.

I mean I'm on the inside of some things where it was myself involved, my business involved

and other people separate scenario.

I know inside scoop of other things in scenarios with other people and I'm just watching the

news play something that just not even real.

It's just not even true or it's just this clip of something.

Could you imagine you're having a hard conversation with your wife or husband or kid and it's

a two hour conversation or it's a 10 minute conversation and somebody just clips the

worst 15 seconds of that conversation and then they put that out there and everybody's

judging you like, I can't believe that he said you say that again and I'm going to smack

you.

Well, it looked like that but that ain't really what it was really saying.

What we were saying, I was telling a story of what somebody else said at school when I saw

him and now you clipped out somewhere and said that if you say it again I'm going to

smack you to my wife and that never was even what I said.

That was never the context of it but you only played 15 seconds and so just be careful

what you can trust in the news.

Don't believe everything that you read, don't believe everything that you see because

they're just going to feed you what they want to see.

What's going to sell the most tickets and give them the most views and the most viewers

and all that stuff.

Now maybe half the time it's real and it's the truth.

Maybe 90% of the time it's real and the truth.

There is a lot of truth but there's also a lot of fake and that's why I learned and I've

always tried to operate this way.

First of all, believe none of what you hear, half of what you see, right?

That's what you've heard.

Believe none of what you hear and half of what you see.

You heard that term before.

Believe none of what you hear and half what you see.

How many times have you heard this about a person you meet the person and the person's

unbelievable?

How many times have you heard one thing and really you get down to the bottom of the store

and it's not really even the truth.

It's not even a real thing.

So I just learned, don't judge a situation or a person until you know that person until

you know that situation.

Otherwise I'm not trying to be fooled out here and thinking that this is great because I'm

watching on the news and said it's great but it really ain't great.

That's called marketing.

I've watched some commercials make skittles, you know, no disrespect to skittles but

just you know, skittles make it look like skittles can make you just live a happy life like

ain't a worry in the world.

It's just unbelievable.

And when you dig into it to sugar and some of the things in skittles can be banned in

some countries and we feed them to ourself and to our children because it's so bad,

you know, the health is so bad for your health.

Let the marketing say it, man, I'm watching TV.

That looks like it's unbelievable.

To me, this is great, you know, for me.

And so you just never, never know.

But what I do know for sure is that negative news travels faster and bigger than good news.

I mean, if something good positive happens, that maybe gets out there a little bit.

Something negative happens.

Travels everywhere. Why is that? I don't know, but what I do know

Is that I like to focus on the positive and not try to be involved in listening and speaking too much on the negative

But what I do know is that years and years and years ago in our business we created

something that to this day plays out on a on a weekly basis

Called the good news and we share the good news in our organization and in the reason why we call it the good news

Is because we know that the news often times has so much negativity if you watch the news tonight

You'll see it's gonna be more negative and it we even for this is holiday season

It should be more positive

I bet you that thing has more negative than it does positive in it

And so we want to have the good news spreading all the good news to people because we know how much of the world gets

Pumped on the news with negativity and that negative news travels faster. They say negative news travels around the world before

Good news has a chance to put its pants on

What are you contributing to next one learn to not give a

bleep

Only to get better

Okay, learn learn learn only learn not to give up you know what

Unless you're unless you're using it to get yourself better only that can you hold on to meaning this

There's always gonna be somebody out there with something to say about you negative

And I feel like I was just preaching this to my kids my

Daughter and my son were becker in an arguing, you know any you guys got kids

You know what I'm talking about one minute. They love each other next minute. They want to fight each other

And so they're arguing over something and this one's all upset because this one said this to the other one

Oh, this one said this or this one stuck us tongue out and I'm always using that as an opportunity to be a teacher moment

And say look daddy don't give a shit people say

Okay, I want you to learn at a younger age and I learn to stop giving a shit with this person says about you

I don't care because the only way I care is if I put that in my little box. I think

What's the name goggins he calls it is cookie jar

He says he got a cookie jar and he puts anything in that jar mental cookie jar that motivates him that somebody said about him

or something that happened to him that he could go grab that cookie if he needs a little fuel

I only keep the things that are going to help me to where I'm like man. Thank you for that

I appreciate you hating on me so much you have no idea

If I was petty how many people I would thank for breaking all these records right now because there's a small list of them

And I would just read off what they did

I'm just so grateful for that because if it wasn't we wouldn't have the fuel to do what we're getting ready to do

Glory to God though. I know where it comes from first

But but the situation is you got to learn how to only use the negative things that people say about you

For your good otherwise we got to let all the rest of it go

It's like waste like your body does like it you feed your body food

And you chew it up and it dot just and the stuff that's that it doesn't need that's not good

It just passes it out as waste and then it keeps and nourishes the body with the rest

That's what I want you to do with hate

Learn how to digest the hate learn how to digest the negativity and learn not to give a you know what

What people got to say unless you're going to only use it to make yourself better

But you can't be letting what people say hold you down

You can't be letting what people say get you down

You can't let what people say stop you from pushing pushing forward

You can't let what people say make you feel better or whatever like

Like I promise you to go to the next level you got to stop giving it and you know what in the higher level you go

The more capital letter not give it up

You know that you need to be in order to go to the next level next thing up

Only got a couple things left

next thing up

Is forgive people you got to learn how to forgive people not hold on to

grudges

It doesn't mean that forgiving people I got to hang out with you all the time or

We got to have the same relationship that we always had or you know whatever but just

Learn how to in your heart truly

Forgive people for the things that they've done that have bothered you or they've hurt you or whatever

And give people to benefit a doubt even if you're a bigger person

Like sometimes it's hard to look and say man. I would never do some stuff like that. What else because you're not that person

Right, and so I would have done some stuff like that

20 years ago

This person is still doing stuff like that

I feel bad for the person because they haven't had the opportunity to be influenced by the mentors and people

That I've been influenced by or the experience or they haven't listened they haven't humbled themselves to grow

From from from certain things so they wouldn't view life in that way and it has to be a very miserable life to live for them

And so it's like man, I forgive you. I feel bad because if I was that person

My life would be miserable. I don't have time to be that negative. I don't have time to be that toxic

I don't have that because I got so much

Stress automatic. I got so many other battles. I got to fight

I don't have time to be worried about fighting little battles or carrying all this negative toxic energy on me

About every you know Susan Tom and Charlie out there what they did what they said what they did to me wrong or whatever it is

I don't have time for I don't got the energy. I need all that energy

Focused on what's gonna get me to the next level and so the only way I'm using any of that energy is to make it positive

But you I think really the only way to be joyous and to be like in a good spirit

Like you could use some of the stuff and make yourself better

But you could be miserable and angry to your husband your wife your family your children your spouse

But you could go use that negative motivation and win a world championship

But what is it for a man or woman to go win the world championship in this and then lose the world championship or or not

Even make the playoffs in your family life or in your business life or you know, whatever it is

But you won one over here. I'm talking about healthy to do it healthily

I think you got to forgive the people that harmed you or hurt you and let go of some of these things and give people the benefit

of the doubt and

Don't forget this is what this is what my mentor taught me years ago and I understand I

Still fall short man. I'm not giving you things from sitting on a throne. I'm not a perfect person

I'm just throwing out tips that have helped me and and I hope to continue to pass the test

God

My mentor said hey listen, you know the Lord's prayer

Okay, for those you that don't know like in the beginning. I don't even know the Lord's prayer

That's the same thing as the our father

Okay, so the our father

Okay is is you look at the segment of it that says forgive us

As we forgive those that trust pass against us

So he taught me and he said what that says is that is that I have to forgive those

I'm asking God to forgive us forgive me as we forgive those that trust pass against us

It's always like if you can't forgive

How you gonna ask God to forgive you right you're asking for forgiveness, but you don't want to give no forgiveness

You're asking for money, but you don't want to give no money

You're asking for love, but you don't want to give no love. We're in the world. Is that work?

You give what you get you get what you give

And so man that that took me because I'm like, oh man Lord knows I need a lot of forgiveness

Especially at that point in my life

Man, so I better start forgiving some people

I better start asking for some forgiveness

And so man, I'm telling you this is this is something that may feel weak

But it's really

carries a lot of power with it and so maybe consider forgiving some people giving people to benefit a doubt

I understand we're all human. I also understand there's a time in a place. I also understand you know

Sometimes people you got to keep them at a distance

And there is a time where you got to stand up for yourself

There is a time where you have to defend yourself and and I understand you know all of that stuff

next one and last one

Is and there's more things, but this is just what I came up with for for today, but the last one I'm gonna give you is is

Consistent prayer with focus to belief is a superpower

Consistent prayer

With a focused belief

In my experience is a superpower

mean it

There's something that you that that you want to make move in your life within reason, okay?

And and I'm looking at that with with the focus and attention on it and

I'm praying for that with belief

Focus belief even if it don't happen in a month, but just focused belief and attention in my spirit that this is what I'm

Believing is going to happen. This is what I'm trusting in faith is gonna happen and

And and just having consistent prayer with that in my experience is like a superpower you do with that what you want

You do with that information what you want may not be relevant to everybody may not be something that everybody can relate to

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