The Grind-Cast “Make It Happen”

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Simon here.

Welcome to another episode of the Grindcast.

And let's talk about making it happen.

Sorry, kids.

We need to make shit happen.

It's how we're going to start this thing off.

And so, you know, you watch people do things

and start something in life, whether it is relationships

or business or exercise.

And something happens.

Maybe they get injured or, you know, flat tire or, you know,

something they start saying, well, you know, maybe it just wasn't meant to be.

Maybe I wasn't meant to do this or I wasn't because I got this and so this.

What those are is those are normal everyday things that happen to people

that we cannot use as an excuse, that it wasn't meant to be for you

to achieve your goals, dreams, and aspirations.

And so I was listening to, I was listening to a podcast the other day.

And you know, I'm not a hater.

It's not above me to say, well, I don't want to give this person any love.

I don't want to give this person any credit because it makes me less than.

And so I was listening to Edmonds Let's podcast.

And he gave the perfect example for this topic.

I already had this subject that I want to talk about.

But when I was listening to it, I'm thinking, you know, this fits.

You know, so he used the example of imagine if you get a call at work that your child

is in a car accident, a major car accident.

And they're rushed to the hospital.

And you go outside of the office and there's a flat tire.

Would you stop and say, oh, must be just meant to be for me to not be there for my son

because I got a flat tire.

So you get in that car and you find a way and you borrow somebody's car,

you beg somebody, you get whatever you got to do, you get on the road and you get moving

and you stop at a stop light and the car breaks down.

You're not going to stop there and say it wasn't meant to be for me to get to the hospital for my daughter

because she's in a major car accident.

Let me turn around and go back to where, if you have to hijack the car next to you,

if you have to drag somebody out of the car, whatever you have to do to get to your child

out of a sense of desperation is what you're willing to do.

And this is the way that you need to approach greatness.

Not waiting for excuses and all these things that happen in your life and sulking and pouting about what's going on in your life.

Let that slow you down.

It goes back to checking yourself on, do I have the hunger in my performing with the sense of desperation

that it takes in order to be great?

And so another thing that came out of that podcast that I love was where he was talking about,

if you look back on your life and most people, many of the greatest things they've ever accomplished

came out of a sense of desperation, desperate I had to.

I had the opportunity to speak at Teen Challenge, which is one of the most successful rehabilitation clinics in the United States.

I think it's all over the country, but I spoke at one of these and I was telling some of the folks in there that were recovering, no disrespect.

They laughed, so at least I know it was received well, but you know, I told them when you need to, when you get out of here and you approach your goals,

you need to approach your goals like an attic.

You ever see somebody that is so zoned in on something this while, if they could just take that energy and put it on something great.

A lot of these people that are recovering or that have recovered end up being great at what they do.

Even though it's a small percentage of people that can recover once they recover, if they can apply that to other areas,

man, their beast because I've lived with the NADDG before.

And man, it ain't no telling, he'd jump out a window, he would give him no money and he would find a way to get a ride to where he wasn't supposed to be.

He'd find a way to get home, he would walk, he would do anything necessary to get the job done.

Anything relentlessly, like Freddie Krueger, like relentless pursuit of what he was focused on.

No excuses, no, no, no, nobody could tell it.

So this is what you need to do in the pursuit of your dreams, goals and aspirations.

You need to be approaching it like an attic.

You need to approach it like you're desperate.

If you're hungry enough to get it, like give me the person that's the most hungry.

If somebody comes into my business, one of my businesses and they're like, alright, here's the person with the best resume and the most credentials and all this

and here's this person that they got decent, they're able to carry themself, okay.

They don't really have a doctorate or a master's degree or anything like that, but they are hungry.

They're willing to do anything, they're relentless.

If they get a flat tire at home, they're going to call an Uber and they're going to get it right here.

They're going to borrow family members' car, they ain't missing no work.

Give me the person that is absolutely relentless to what it is that they're trying to do

and that's the person that's going to win nine times out of ten.

That's the person that I'm going to take for what it takes in order to make your goals and dreams a reality.

We have to start approaching life relentlessly this way.

I thought about, well, how can we transfer this into things that people can apply?

I think the first thing is drawing out your plan and no matter what it is in your life,

you know, I have in my office right now, I have my family goals with a picture on it of me and my wife and our children.

And we have goals written down, short term and long term.

And out of the goals we have, only 20% of them are financial.

Most of them are not financial.

It's anywhere from how much money we want to give to charity, to vacations we want to take with the family,

things we want to do for our parents, things we want to do for others,

all different type, small commitments on goals that we have for our own marriage,

which people miss the boat on.

I think one of the things I've realized being married for coming up on five years

is I think people fail because at times, because children make it harder on relationships not easier.

And nobody tells you that stuff.

But if you understand the principles of life and success, you'll start to understand all of these things can coincide.

And so I understand our family is going to grow and there's no growth in your comfort zone.

I understand that kids are the biggest blessing in the world.

Well, with the biggest blessing also come the biggest burdens.

And so some of the things that are the most difficult come with the biggest blessings,

but the biggest blessings also come with the biggest burdens.

And so what people fail to do, I think, is put their marriage first.

You know, I think people's priority is always, you know, it's the kids.

You have to do this for the kids. You have to do this for the kids.

On an airplane, the first thing they tell you to do is put the mask on yourself before assisting any small children.

The reason why is if you can't handle your own stuff, the children are going to suffer.

And the same thing happens in relationships.

It can affect the children's lives.

If you don't affect on keeping, if you don't focus on your marriage staying strong, in relationships staying strong,

then that eventually because you were so focused on the kids,

the exact thing that you wanted to happen which is trying to do what's best for them doesn't happen.

And you heard them and were split apart.

And so, you know, I've learned this in the relationship.

And so we start drawing, okay, here's our goals as a married couple.

We want to have a date night every week or we want to listen to this podcast or we want to go to church a couple of times a month or whatever it is.

Apply these things to life.

So the first part of this is writing your goals down.

Okay.

If you spend more time writing something on social media, then you're willing to sit down and give your future and your family.

You need to really sit down and think about where your priorities are right now.

And so I want you to take the discipline, take the time, sit down, put a pen and paper to it, and write down what are the things that you want to accomplish.

All of this is going to help you be relentless.

All of this stuff is going to help you get to where you want to be and make shit happen.

And so after you write it down, you have to have no excuses.

So the second thing that I thought of is like, all right, so a person that is going to approach making stuff happen, they have to have no excuses.

Everybody has their own version of excuses.

And so in sales, in a sales industry, we make up and every sales industry has the client says this to you or the possible person you're trying to sell to is going to say this to you.

Or I have this type of car or I invest my money into this or whatever it is, there's a sheet typically that you practice that here's the response that you need to say for this person's excuse.

And so for yourself, you need to write your own rebuttal sheet.

So I'm going to write down already. Here's what my probable excuses will be. Here's what I'll probably say.

Here's why I can't wake up early in the morning. Well, because I don't sleep good at night or because of this or because of that and I already start writing down what's the answer to this?

Well, the right answer is you find a way to get to bed earlier. You find a way to do this.

So you write down those things, but you have to have no excuses.

I'm not a hero when I'm saying out there, somebody in your shoes right now, like single mom, that can't be the excuse.

My mom was one of those couple of jobs night school found a way to make it happen.

Like I have a woman in my in my business right now named Albany, who is a beast in Maryland, three or four children, single mom, one of our top performers.

So there's somebody out there getting it done with the same hand that you're dealt and they've already won.

So why are you making excuses? Stop with the excuse that yeah, maybe more difficult.

That's more difficult. You're working hard. Yeah, it's more difficult. You have kids. Yeah, it's more difficult. Whatever it is. Yes, of course it is. I understand.

But to make an excuse is to give up on your dreams. You either do or you don't.

Why you think Nike blue Nike just do it. Why you think they come up with just do it because they're dealing with athletes and people just start making like at the end of the day.

Just do it. Get up. Make it happen. You know, I looked at my schedule for today and it was slammed with stuff. I had no room for anything.

All of a sudden, somebody really needed to speak to me. The only time I could book them was 6.30 a.m. 6.30 this morning. Well, guess what? I try not to bend on my mind, body and spirit.

So in order for me to read some scripture, pray, get my cardio in, take a shower, get dressed, all of that. I figured out I have to wake up at 4.30 in the morning.

It's the only way I had to be up at 4.30. I had it all mapped out. I had it ready. I was sitting in my office parking lot at 6.30 this morning getting things done. Why?

No excuses. Make shit happen. You can't want all the perks that come with greatness and not want to put in the work that comes with greatness.

So the next thing is shut up. So we're talking about, well, how do you make stuff happen? We went to this, went to no excuses. Now we're going to shut up. Here's what I mean by shut up. I remember as a kid getting tests in school where the teacher was saying was an open book test.

And I'm like, hell, yeah. I always made an open book because I was trying to cheat off the person next to me. So I was peeking to the left for this person. It started out and even after worry about the stress of getting caught at this point, because now it's just the open book test.

For me to not look at my book and take an open book test would be foolish. For me to not look at the people that that that had wisdom in this area and the answers are in that book and it just take the test on my own would be foolish. But in business, you get the answers to the test from winners.

Look at the person that's getting straight A's to your left. Look at the person that's getting straight A's to your right. In the person that is doing the best. The person that is where you want to be. You need to check your ego is shut up and ask them questions and let them give you the answers and don't give them any excuses back. And so you need to understand.

Once you ask the question to these people that are winning take notes and don't be coming up with no excuses. They're going to give you the answers to the test. Find the people that are where you want to be and make shit like you're on your way to making things happen. When you humble yourself and go to the people that have the answers. And here's what I've learned about going to people that have the answers and being a person that has had the answers for others.

First thing is more people are open to giving you the answers than you think. And the second thing is I always lean towards spending time with people not only that get results, but people that respect my time more than I would somebody that doesn't respect my time. Here's what I mean by that. For my mentor.

Coach Jim Trussell.

Okay, this isn't a guy I just,

you know, I take a picture with him once in a while.

Like this is somebody that is pouring into my life,

sowing into my life

that I promise to make proud and to not waste

all of this man's time and wisdom.

And I want to change my part of the world

and spread this unbelievable man's heart

and knowledge to as many people as I possibly can.

And when Trussell's,

I got Friday April this date open at seven o'clock in the morning.

I don't say, oh man, Trus, Thursday night,

I'm out entertaining clients.

I got to drink wine with these people.

And that means for me to be meeting you,

I need to leave my house at 5.30 in the morning.

I got to be up at 4.30.

I might not get home to no excuses.

He got the answers to the test.

I'm making it easy on Trus.

I'm bringing him his Chaiti latte that he likes every time.

And I will be there on time,

never one time have I been late.

And nothing comes before our meetings

other than a death in the family or something crazy.

I'm not skipping these meetings.

And I come prepared every single time to the teacher.

And I got the answers to the test.

I come there prepared with questions every single time.

I don't want this man to work any harder than he already.

He's already given me his time.

Now I think he needs to create a lesson plan in order to teach me.

That's bullshit.

If I'm going to demand that got the answers

and he's already given me time that everybody else wants,

I want to make it as easy on this person as possible.

I want to respect that person's time as much as possible.

And so I want to bring you that drink.

I want to go ahead and be there early.

I want to be flexible to your schedule.

I'll come as early as late as whatever you need.

And here's where the humility thing comes from.

I heard somebody talk about they blew up in business

based on being a driver for successful people.

And they drove for free.

And so the knowledge that they gained for driving for free.

Imagine driving for super successful people around for free for two years.

You may not have made anything,

but would it have cost you to get that much time with that person?

College will cost you 20, 30, 40, 50,000 a year.

You saved yourself at least 100 grand.

And the teachers at school aren't going to teach you

with those four people are teaching you.

So you have to understand sometimes working for free

is making you the most money by getting the wisdom.

And so there's an open book test out there

and you need to go ahead and hang around the winners.

Hang around winners.

Cut out the people that are negative.

Cut out the people that are that are losing.

Listen and humble yourself and shut up

when the other person is trying to teach you game

and give you what it is.

Come prepared, respect those people's time.

And then focus.

So the next thing on that list is once you already,

once you get the information you've got to written down

you know where you're going.

Now it's time to focus.

Here's where people, what the, what the focus is?

What the focus?

What are you focusing on?

And you need to focus on it consistently.

Like nothing else even matters when you're zoned in

and focused on where you need to be.

Distractions and all that stuff come up for everybody.

It's minimizing the distractions.

Like have you ever seen a person who's been focusing

the distractions?

Like have you ever seen Kobe Bryant or Michael Jordan

or LeBron James dribble down the basketball court

and take a phone call from his baby mama?

I mean it would look crazy to watch

the best quarterback in the league

or the best running back in the league

or Tiger Woods somebody golfing and say,

excuse me, excuse me for a second.

My girlfriend's calling me in the middle of the game.

Excuse me, my mom's calling me in the middle.

But even my own mom note, like my mom is it for me.

I mean this is other than my wife and my children.

I mean my mom has been my A1 since day one.

My mom note like during these hours this day,

like I told my mom this morning,

I talked to her seven o'clock this morning,

like I'm tied up all day.

I'll talk to you tomorrow.

Like it's not even possible because the distractions I can't take.

I go to the gym, I'm very rarely ever.

I don't take the phone, I don't look at the phone.

I don't text me, I don't take call.

You have to focus on what it is that you're doing.

When I go on date night with my wife,

I try to give her my phone, put it in her purse

so I'm not looking at the phone that I am so tempted to grab.

Like it's $100,000 in the bag.

Like I just give her the phone so I don't touch it.

When I'm with my daughter,

I was painting yesterday with my daughter,

from school being focused and intentional on the time

that I'm spending with her, taking her to get ice cream.

Other than to take a couple of pictures,

I put my phone completely down.

It's called focus.

And so you can't be distracted by things that don't matter.

You have to minimize the distractions

and only take the necessities.

Think about what you want in life

and give up the short term comfort

if you want to make shit happen.

Like where do you want to be five years from today?

Like maybe things aren't supposed to be easy for you right now

because it's preparing you for something greater.

Think about some of the things in your life

that you've gone through,

death, cheating, disloyalty, jail, addiction, prison,

whatever.

A lot of the worst things that have happened to you

make you who you are today

and you wouldn't change a thing.

Like I talk about like,

I'm leading the fatherless right now.

Most of my children in the youth program

and the kids that I'm working with

and the things that I'm doing are for kids

that don't have their living in single parent homes.

Well, it sucked at one point to be without a father,

but I understand that it had to happen in order for me

to lead to fatherless.

Like the reason why Teen Challenge has so much success

is if you do the research on Teen Challenge,

the people that lead their stuff

have already been through the addiction and beat it.

So they're getting one of them.

And so if your life was better or easier,

you wouldn't have as much grit.

Maybe if these things that are happening to you right now

didn't happen, it wouldn't prepare you for the next level.

You wouldn't want it as bad.

You wouldn't be as hungry.

You wouldn't be as prepared.

Something is preparing you at this very moment

that is standing in your way

that unsuccessful people are gonna sit there and say,

ah, maybe it wasn't meant to be.

Everything in life that's worth having is an uphill battle.

Stop waiting for things to go downhill.

Like I'm on the peloton bike this morning

and I'm pushing it in the intervals

that we're going to just like get out of the saddle.

Get it, when you push it,

you crank that shit to the right

and it becomes more difficult.

And that's where you want to be.

That's the zone where you grow.

Now, where you're breathing?

Where you're breathing?

Where you, your breathless right there?

Like, you want to be breathless or basic?

Because if you want to be basic,

you ain't going to worry about being breathless.

But if you're breathless, you can't be complaining

because that's keeping you away from being basic.

I want to be exhausted.

Coast Trust will says it's exhausting to be great.

I want to be great.

So I'm down with being exhausted.

How about you?

And so I want you guys to embrace this.

This moment, embrace the ability to go ahead

and make things happen.

Follow some of these things.

Humble yourself.

Don't ask for easy.

Ask for yourself to get better and stronger.

Things are going to be uphill

if you want anything to be great.

Be willing to invest your time now

and get a payoff in a year from today.

If you're always looking for short-term payoffs,

man, you're never going to be anywhere great.

You're never going to do anything special.

You've got to be willing to invest into your relationships,

invest into your business, invest into what you're doing.

And don't worry about how much is coming back right now.

Know that it's coming back in two years.

Know that it's coming back in five years.

Invest today and make shit happen.

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