Perspective = Reality

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Welcome back to another episode of The Grind Cows.

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And want to touch on perspective a little bit today.

Because our perspective ends up being our reality, right?

Your perspective is your reality.

So success, failure, confidence, happiness,

all that stuff is really shaped by the way that we think, right?

So what is perspective?

It's just the way that we're looking at something,

the way that we're thinking about something.

And so so much of art, you know, you ever hear the term of,

you know, when you change the way that you look at things,

the things that you look at change.

And so, you know, you can take yourself from feeling upset,

to feeling grateful, really, in all the way that you choose to look at something.

You know, when you're in a, and it's easier said than done.

Believe me, I'm no saint in this area, right?

I get passionate, you know, I get emotional, just like anybody else.

But I think how I've learned to bring myself back down to earth

is to look at my situation.

You know, whatever has me upset at the time,

or whatever has me down at the time,

and really just turning it around and looking at how many people got it worse,

or how the situation could be worse, or how I could look at it to be grateful.

And it usually just can change your whole mindset in that moment.

And so, I think if you change how you interpret things,

then you end up really changing a lot of your life.

And how you view things is how you do things, right?

And so that's the, it kind of rhymes, right?

How you view things is, is how you do things.

And so, if you could start looking at, just pay attention.

Just think about what you're thinking about for a minute.

As you're going through this week, right, let's put it into practice this week.

And let's start looking at, how is my perspective on some things

that I'm dealt, you know, this week?

And usually it's probably on the more challenging things that we need to use this perspective,

you know, taking a peek at what our perspective is.

And just think about this week as you're going through things,

if you get frustrated or you're getting down a little bit,

just see if there's a way that you could change the way that you're looking at that

and see if it doesn't change some of the ways that you're dealing with things and how you feel.

Because, you know, really if you look at it, events are neutral.

It's our interpretation that gives them meaning, okay?

Two people can experience the same failure and walk away with completely different outcomes.

Like I used to use the example, you know, with our sales team.

And I would say, you know, you have one guy in this example or girl or woman in this example and says, hey, you know, why are you the way that you are?

You know, how did you become so disciplined?

How did you become so focused?

Why are you so, you know, why do you have such a good work ethic?

You know, and you know, you hear a story of what she says, well, my dad, you know, my dad was an alcoholic.

And by watching him, you know, kind of lose his health and lose his life, you know,

and not his life not paying out to everything, I vow that I'm not going to do that and to make the most of my life.

And so I think a lot of it is based off of me watching what happened, you know, with my dad being an alcoholic.

And then you look at the other sister and she's upset and maybe she hasn't had a lot of success and she's, you know, maybe drinks a lot and marriage didn't work out, you know, whatever.

And you said, well, what happened? Why do you think? And she says, well, I think a lot of it has to go back to my upbringing that my dad was an alcoholic.

And because my dad was an alcoholic, you know, and was abusive, you know, and made me sad.

And, you know, I started to drink young and that's why I drink today.

And, you know, it's like two people can have this same experience, but two completely different ways to go about it and walk away with completely different outcomes.

Right? And so I think that's just an example, you know, of a way to look at it.

You're not really, you know, if you look at some things in people that take risks, you know, I look at our business specifically and, you know, it's, it's most positions, not all positions, but most positions are, you know, commission based.

And so you, the upside of that is you'll see people that do well and they make a lot of money and the down side of that is you'll see people that don't do as well and they don't make a lot of money.

And I think what, what probably worries people at times, not just in our business, but in any business where you're entrepreneurial is, you know, in that example, you're not really afraid of failure, you know, a lot of times.

It's you're afraid of what people will think about you if you fail.

Because you can recover a lot of times, you know, from things or if you don't even look at it that way and you look at it for sports, you know, or whatever.

It's really, if you look at it, maybe you're not really as, as afraid of the failure itself.

But maybe you're more afraid of what people will think about you if you fail.

And that stops and freezes a lot of people from taking some chances on themselves that maybe they would have otherwise taken.

Your identity, you know, starts to be shaped by the story that you tell yourself.

So what is your identity? What is the story that you're telling yourself in your mind? What is that perspective that you're having?

What is the words that you're using, you know, that you can audibly hear that you use about yourself in situation and the internal voice, you know, that you're allowing to have a voice in your life?

It starts to shape and be shaped and take shape by the story that we're telling ourselves.

And, you know, most limits are seem like it's more interpretations than a true reality.

You know, I've seen, I don't know if you guys saw that one thing on social media that had a guy.

I don't know if he was a monk or whatnot, but he was saying, you know, a lot of the times, the things that you worry about.

I don't know what the percentage was. You know, I think it was 90% or more.

90% or more of the time, whatever it gets all worried, it never even is real. It doesn't even happen.

And so similar to those are the limits that we play sometimes on ourself.

Most limits are just our interpretation of that limit and it's not really a reality.

So like an example of it would be, you know, I use the example a lot of the Roger Bannister.

Because, you know, right now I'm grateful we're in a period in our business where we're having a lot of success.

We're breaking all-time records, weekly records, monthly records, top producing records.

And, you know, I've eluded and used the example of people of, you know, it's like Roger Bannister.

That when he, Roger Bannister was the first person to run, you know, four-minute mile.

And prior to that, scientists and people would, they would say that the, if you ran a four-minute mile that you would die,

that it wasn't physically possible. And nowadays, it happens all the time.

There's people running four minutes. I'm not one of them.

I ran a seven-minute, about seven and a half-minute mile the other day. And that took some mental resilience, you know, to say to Lisa.

I'm not going to be one of them, but I know there's people out there that can do it and that do it more often.

And it used to be something that people thought wasn't even possible.

And so, you know, I think that's one of those things that we start to place these limiting beliefs that isn't even real.

And when it comes down to the confidence, you know, a lot of times people ask, you know, like, how do you get your confidence?

You know, they'll ask other people that are having success in our business. They'll ask, you know, how in this virtual sales, are you getting so confident?

And how could I build my confidence?

And I just don't, you know, I think when I look at those scenarios and I look at those people, confidence doesn't really come from winning.

I think it came from how you worked.

And a lot of times it comes from how you interpret the losing.

So, the confidence to me when I'm watching it from people is that the confidence comes a lot of times from the work that they're putting in.

So they put in so much work, practice, preparing, preparation, that's what brings that confidence.

And then also, you know, how they look at losing. Like if they have a bad day, they're not all crushed about it.

They understand that's part of the process to getting closer to being successful that in a 30-day month, or if you're going to work, you know, 23 days out of the month that you might have three bad days, or you might have five bad days, you could go 18 and five for the month and have a really, really successful month.

But I think so many times people interpret that five as failure and they allow that to roll into something else.

And so, you know, I saw somebody a podcast or something talking about it, I think you keeping failure and success close together.

And I thought it was interesting. So they were saying success plus failure equals humility when you're winning.

Meaning I'm having success, but I'm aware of failure, that it's a possibility, and I've been there before, and I don't want to feel that, or I know what it feels like, when you're having success in your winning, but you know that that failure thing has happened or is a reality, you're more grateful and more humble when you're winning.

And then when you're failing to keep one eye also on reminding yourself of all the times that you won, all the successes that you've had, and how this is just a season, and you can come back out of this and you're going to have success again, that equals resilience when you're struggling.

So when we need to be resilient during a failing moment, you got a point to the vision of success and knowing that that's something that you could work towards and come out of and that builds that resilience and on the other side, keeping your humility straight as when you're winning, knowing that we're not always too far away from your next failure.

That helps to keep you humble, but when you separate success and failure, like they don't go together, you can lose both of those things. You can lose humility and you can lose resilience. Meaning I'm having so much success, I can't lose, I can't be defeated.

No way, like that, you can lose your humility because you're not even open, and I understand the mind game of you got to trick your mind and be confident and be, but there's a spirit of humility that comes with understanding what it's like to fail and remembering what that's like.

And then the same thing for resilience, you can lose your ability to be resilient and persevere through things when you get beat up a little bit. If you don't have a vision of what this is going to look like when you come out of it and that you're going to have success again and you remember what success is going to feel like and what it used to feel like and what it's going to be like when you get through this period of time.

And the more you learn, the more you realize how much you don't know. I think that's when, and you've heard, you'll hear this before, but when you really know somebody is wise, is the more you really start to learn, the more you realize how much you don't know.

And it takes the spirit of humility, I think, to continuously learn and grow. But it's the people that think that they know everything that really don't know that much.

Growth is a journey. There is no arrival. I think this is where people get, I think they look at the process of being successful the wrong way sometimes and discourage themselves.

And they make themselves easily manipulated because they're looking for this place that I no longer have to grow anymore as a person.

I no longer have to challenge myself anymore as a person. I don't have to work hard, but I get all the benefits and actually more benefits.

And you know, you could get to a place like that. But typically when I've watched that, that is after a decade or two of grinding and putting in work, like most people are unwilling to put in because growth is a journey.

And there is no arrival. I'm 20 years in business. We've had some success in our industry, won a bunch of awards. I still don't feel like I've arrived.

I'm not even close to arrive. Every year I'm coming into the next year like, man, I wish I knew last year what I know now. I wish I knew five years ago what I know now.

After people would have thought that we already would have had arrival syndrome.

To me on this journey, that's why you got to embrace the process is that you're either growing or you're dying in your mind.

Are you working towards growth or you working towards comfort and complacency? And when you put it in neutral, typically you're going backwards. It's really either driving or in reverse.

And happiness is, you know, the same thing is everybody's looking for happiness. Happiness isn't a destination.

It's a state of being. Like, you're not going to be anymore. And I've told people this, you know, I've lived in huge houses. I've lived in super small houses.

And, you know, I can't say, I was much more happy in a house that was gigantic than in a house that was half the size. And vice versa.

You know, there's I think happiness is is more a state of being of what you are. What you're choosing to be in that moment.

And that's an ever flowing and growing and in a thing. We could be happy today and not happy tomorrow because there's no destination of happiness.

It's a state of what we're being in that very moment. And so I think a lot of it could be the way that we start to learn to control our perspective.

And if you control your perspective, then you can start to control your emotions a little bit more. And when you can control your perspective and your emotions, you can start to control a lot of your joy, peace, outcome in the journey because it's a journey. And we're never going to arrive.

And so just remember that your perspective is your reality, the way that you're looking at things, speaking of things, thinking of things. And I think, you know, me included, we could all do a better job at that.

And so let's just focus on it this week together. And as always, you guys know that we're grateful for your time. If you think this helped anybody, could you do us a favor? Just 10 seconds.

Anybody you think we could help share it with somebody so we could continue to impact more people. And as always, we appreciate you. You know, thank you for joining us on another episode of the Grindcast. Get ready. It's a new day.