Micromanagement vs Accountability

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Welcome back to another episode of The Grindcast.

Get ready. It's a new day.

Don't let your circumstances control your mind.

One of the strongest ideas that I could think of

is the difference between what is happening around you

and what is happening inside you.

The circumstances in life,

those things could be real,

but we gotta find a way to not allow those things

to dictate our emotional state.

Stick with me, right?

So there's a lot of times throughout the day

or the week or the month, we gotta stay focused

and there's these storms and all this stuff goin' on

and they could all be real,

but try not to allow it to dictate.

Your emotional state.

When something goes wrong,

the natural reaction is to immediately search for evidence

that things are gettin' worse, right?

I don't know why,

but it's just the way the human brain is wired.

And so one setback becomes proof of another setback.

One rejection becomes evidence that you're failing.

One bad day becomes evidence

that your life is goin' in the wrong direction.

If we don't control these thoughts,

those things that are goin' on outside

start to penetrate us inside in a way that they shouldn't.

This creates a circle, if you will,

just like continuum of, all right, here's the circumstance,

here's my interpretation of the circumstance,

here's my emotion, here's my behavior,

and then it just keeps goin' from there, right?

So this happened, this is the situation,

now it starts, like you can control it

by how do you interpret.

So my interpretation of that, what happened,

then that starts to go into my emotion,

that starts to go into my behavior,

and then more evidence

supporting the original interpretation, right?

Whatever that thing is goin' on in our mind,

a lot of times the issue is it's negative.

And so the challenge, I think, is to interrupt that loop.

Think about this, this is deep.

Interrupting that cycle when things aren't cool,

when somethin' doesn't go well.

And you can acknowledge that this is reality

without surrendering your mindset to it.

So this is real, this ain't good,

but I'm not gonna give my mindset to it.

I'm not gonna let it control my day

negatively or my emotions.

You don't control every event,

but you do have influence over the meaning

that you assign to that event.

E plus R equals O.

You guys have heard me talk about that.

The event happens plus your response equals the outcome,

and so we control the R.

The strongest person in the room

isn't necessarily the person with the fewest problems.

It's the person who remains grounded

every time problems appear.

This translates particularly well, in my example,

to sales and athletics, like sports.

Like the two worlds that I grew up in,

sports and sales.

To me, I think this translates very well to that,

because you get rejection in sales,

or you get losing streaks in sports,

or a missed opportunity, or you get injured.

Lord knows at 43, I'm still dealin' with injuries.

You get injuries, or you have a bad performance.

And what you gotta understand is these setbacks

don't have to become identities,

and you let them roll into being more

than what the heck they are.

So let's not allow today's circumstances

to determine what you believe tomorrow is about to become.

That's why it's get ready, it's a new day, right?

The Grindcast, get ready, it's a new day.

And in that new day, we gotta act like

it's already possible, because with God,

all things are possible.

Act like it's already possible.

There's a major difference between

I hope something is gonna happen,

and behaving like the person that's capable

of making it happen with the level of belief.

Waiting for external evidence

before developing internal certainty

is what keeps you permanently dependent

on circumstances all the time.

This is what's going on, this is my reality.

This is what's going on, this is my reality.

It stops you from having a vision

of where we're going, where we're headed,

what's possible.

Yeah, these circumstances suck,

but this is where we're going.

Yeah, these circumstances suck,

but it doesn't control what we're getting ready to do.

And if you only believe in yourself

when the scoreboard says that you're winning,

your confidence is conditional.

The greats, they start to separate themselves

by how they respond when the scoreboard says,

I'm losing, I'm down.

Real conviction is tested

when the evidence hasn't caught up yet

to what it is that we're convicted about.

The results haven't caught up yet

to where we know that it is that we're going.

And so that's where it takes a little bit of faith.

Right, they say fear is false evidence appearing real.

Faith is maintaining your internal state

when the external world appears to contradict

what you're trying to feel inside.

For an athlete, that means training like a champion

before the championship exists,

before you get the belt, before you get the ring.

We're already training, we're already believing it,

we're already thinking it, we're already feeling it,

we're already practicing like it.

For the salesperson, it means carrying yourself

like a professional, like a winner,

before the numbers validate you.

For an entrepreneur, it means building that business

with conviction before everyone else

sees the opportunity like you do.

This isn't about ignoring reality

or refusing to adapt if things are going wrong

or what the issue is.

It's more so like we gotta refuse

to make current evidence of something,

the sealing of future possibilities,

meaning this stinks right now.

So now, that stops my belief from thinking

I could take it to the next level

because this is no good right now.

Because what happens is our behavior,

typically over time, you'll watch your behavior

as it follows the identity that you believe

that you already possess.

That's why you gotta have faith first.

You gotta believe that it's already yours first.

You gotta walk in it already before it becomes

something that you have because your behavior

starts to follow whatever that your mind

is identifying with.

If you see yourself as a victim,

or if you see yourself as someone who always loses,

then you behave differently than someone

who believes they're capable of winning

and that it's only a matter of time

before the winning comes back your way.

Stop waiting for proof that you're capable

before you start behaving like someone who is.

We gotta act like it's already happening.

We gotta act like we're already that person

act like we're already winning.

Supplying yourself with faith.

And so that's the message for this upcoming week

is no matter what happens,

don't let a bad day turn into a bad three days

or a bad day turn into a bad week

or a bad day turn into a bad month

because of the momentum.

Don't let your circumstances control your mood

and stay locked in with positivity

and a positive 10 on that frequency and vibration chart

that we talked about before, all right?

So remember that grind, get ready, it's a new day.

Okay, we appreciate everybody.

Thank you, if this message helped anybody,

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But as always, we appreciate you joining us,

spending time with us today in The Grindcast.

We're gonna look forward to seeing you next week.

Let's get it this week, get ready, it's a new day.

All right.