Sacrifice Questions

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So now we got today on today's set

And the sacrifices are all right

So, describe sacrifice for me

Sacrifice is to me is to invest

So I think sometimes, you know, I got so much tatted on me

Now I don't even know if you know

But I got sacrifice tatted on me

Yeah, no, no, no, no

Of course I know

So sacrifice to me is, you know, Vassua

It says sacrifice creates opportunity

Yep

So it's an investment

Because investments create future opportunities

And so I think people here sacrifice

Just like they hear the word discipline

They already start getting negative thoughts about

I got a sacrifice

I got to get

But sacrifice means to give up something

That's what really sacrifice is

And you could sacrifice positive

Or you could sacrifice negative

You know, I tell people that

You know, either you sacrifice for what you want

Or what you want becomes the sacrifice

You know what I'm saying?

Say that again

So either you sacrifice for what you want

Which means you give up some stuff

To get what you want

Or you don't give up some stuff

To get what you want

And then what you want becomes the sacrifice

Because I'll sacrifice that

Because I don't get to have it

So it's pick your poison

Would you rather sacrifice for what you want

Or not sacrifice for what you want

And just make what you really want

Be the sacrifice because you can't get it

And so but either way we got to sacrifice

That's what people got to understand

You're going to sacrifice one way or the other

Right

Pick your hard

You know what I mean?

Life is hard

Praise the Lord

We've had a chance to have a peak in the different lives

You know what I mean?

But being dead broke is hard as shit

It's hard

And being rich is hard

Oh yeah

Harder

You know what I'm saying?

So it's like which hard would you choose

Which one do you want to

So to me sacrifice described is to give up something period

But you need to look at the positive side of sacrifice

And basically just cross the word out and say to invest

That's to me what sacrifice is

What's one of the biggest sacrifice that you made?

I've had to sacrifice so much man

I've had to

Man what a good question

And there was no prep for this

No it's up to the other side of the dome

So I think first is the sacrifice I had to make was to die

To my old self

And you know sometimes people say

Well that's just the way I am

That's just the way I am

I think that's a cop out

I don't know if people realize the words

That they're saying to themselves

But we got to be changing

You got to evolve

You know what I mean?

It's change or die

So I had to die to my old self

You know what my old self was

People don't even you know when I tell people about my old self

They don't believe it

Nobody believes me that wasn't there

I can't even see you doing something like that

I can't even see you being like that

You're so polite

I had to die to my old self

And consistently try to die to my old self

So you know I'm not single anymore

I'm married

That's not a sacrifice

That's an investment

But people with there's some things that need to be sacrificed

You know what I mean?

I'm a parent now

That's a sacrifice

But that's an investment

But people can see some of the things that I have to sacrifice

You know what I mean?

In order to have that

But really when I look at the sacrifice

Longer sleep

A sacrifice

What things have we sacrificed?

I think what if I had to boil it down to one

It was time

To build this business

You know the

My 20s

I sacrificed

And I'm still sacrificing

But man my 20s when I started in this business

I worked seven days a week almost every week

In 12 hours a day

So

I sacrificed

There wasn't a lot of clubs

That I was going

I wasn't going to the club

You know what I mean?

And it wasn't that I didn't want to go

It just I sacrificed that

So I could do that

I wasn't dating a whole bunch of women in my 20s

As a young man, especially me

You know that's a sacrifice brother

Come on can we keep it real?

That was a sacrifice

You know me

The old me

So that's a sacrifice

The time that it required to give up chasing women

Chasing the club

Spending a lot of money

I sacrificed

You know if you look at where I lived

My third or fourth year in this business

I was in a first I had roommates

And I didn't have to

I was making bank

I had three roommates

The rent was 2000 a month

We lived in a decent spot

So it was 500 bucks a month

Not that bad to live in a sweet spot

That was a sacrifice

I didn't need to do that

I had a card that was six years old

Didn't have to do that

Then we moved out

From me and Natalie got into an apartment

And it was a one car garage

Nice place

Couple bedrooms

But not crazy good

For a couple of years

That was a sacrifice

You know of money

So I could stop though

And save money

So I sacrificed all that

In order so now you're building a house

Now you must be getting bread

No we been getting bread

We just were saving it

The whole time

So I had to sacrifice the cars I wanted

The house that I really wanted

The stuff that I really wanted

But down the road those things can't

Boom

Boom

Let's see here

You already said that one

So when people hear sacrificed

They think they have to give up something

Is that always the case

So they feel like

Man if I'm in here I mean I feel like I can't

I can't do nothing

I gotta get this up to be here

Now is that the case?

Yes it is

It's always the case

You can't go

It's a go up it is

To give up you gotta go

To go up you gotta give up

So if I want to get in shape

I gotta give up ice cream

If I want to be married

I gotta give up other women

If I want to be happily married

I gotta give up my ego and my pride

If I want to grow my business

I gotta give up money

That I could have right now

To invest back into the business

If I want to grow my business

I gotta put more time into it right now

So I could get more time down the road

Yes the answer is yes

You have to give up something

In order to go up

And so that's what I want to encourage

The listeners to think about

Like what do you really want

And what are you really willing to give up

In order to get there

And so I think sometimes people draw hard lines

To sell themselves

So they say

Well I'm not willing to give up my family

Well neither am I

But you may need to give up some time

And I was talking to coach Trass about

Like alright

You want to be a

You want to be a national championship coach

Guess how many weekends a year

His coaching staff had off

Take a guess

Eight

Guess how many weekends there are in a year

52

So out of 52 weekends

Coaching

They had eight weekends off

That's it

People work a weekend and it's like

You think they died

Like can't believe it

You know what I mean

Eight weekends is what they had off

That means out of 52 weeks

That's what is that

Times

That's one every two months maybe

You know one weekend off every two months

Would be six

So almost a little bit more than one every two months

One weekend off every two months

And he talked about how he feels like his

He learned work ethic from his dad

He said there's some things in life

That are just mostly caught

More than they're taught

When I look at my work ethic

That's I watch my mom single mom

Worked two, three jobs

Well fair worked out of that

Work night school

Grind grind

My grandmother

My grandmother

I learned that from you can't tell somebody to work hard

And they don't see you work hard

That's right

So you have to teach people

That's why I tell them

They're like when are you gonna retire

I want my kids to see

That this silver spoon

Was built

Right

Not handed

Right

And so I want them to see me grind

And so we were talking about

The work ethic that his kids have

And that he has from watching his dad

And his kids have from watching him

On wouldn't really requires to make anything in yourself in America

If they see it easy on you

And they try to apply that to the rest of the world

It's not gonna work

So what do I want to give to my kids that last

I want them to see

How hard you gotta work in order to make some shit happen

Because that ain't changing

That ain't gonna change

And so

But I'm not willing to give up my marriage

That's why we got a date night tonight

I'm not willing to give up being a dad

But people put these hard lines to sell themself

On

I'm not willing to give up my marriage

Nobody said you gotta give up being a dad

But you need to make a sacrifice

It doesn't mean the whole

You don't see him at all

He said his dad wanted to go be

To get his doctorate degree

Trust was dad

He said he had to go do some residency somewhere

To be a doctor

He was gone for six months or 12 months

To get his doctorate thing

And he said for Christmas

He said I remember what each of us got for Christmas

And it wasn't a lot like it was small

He said but we were all proud

Because as a family we knew we sacrificed to get daddy

You know what I mean

What do you need to do

And so it's understanding that like yeah bro

Like I might have to put in some evenings

I might need to get on a road to go see an office for four or five days

But I can still come back and see

My kids and so I think people got to understand that

They don't have to to give up every single thing

And you don't need to put up in your own mind

That you're doing something bad

You got to write down on paper

What do I want for my family

And what am I willing to give up in order to get it

Because the less that you're willing to give up

You're not the less you're gonna be gaining

And so you just gotta be real with yourself

Of what do I really want for my family

If I don't want that much

Then I don't have to give up that much

But you can't want a lot and not want to give up a lot

Because it's give up to go up

Got to

Got to

Sacrifice the shout out to Vassu

Of course

Thank you

Vassu always says sacrifice creates opportunity

What does that mean

See I'm sorry I went on this tangent and seen under the question

You were already going

I'm not so ripping on

That's alright but what I had it

What we had to give a shout out to Vassu

It means exactly what we just got done talking to Vassu was on it

That it's an investment

Yeah

It creates opportunities for other people

You know what I mean

And once you get yourself right

If you want to know how to stay motivated

Other than the nice things for your heart

I want to do for others

I want to

But if you have a kid

Like I've watched people have kids

And say that they got worse because they had kids

My motivation went to a whole other planet

When I had kids

Absolutely I can't

I was already motivated

I agree on that

But the minute that I saw Sienna for the first time

I'm like

It's time to go

It's time to go

I ain't trying to leave them

Right

With nothing

Right

We got to go get something done

We got to go make something here

That we can leave behind

A legacy

Or a liability

And so sacrifice creates opportunity

Who do you want to create an opportunity for

That requires sacrifice

That's what you got to tell yourself

And so I'm not doing it to them

I'm doing it for them

And so it's like anything else

You could do too much of something

And it's not good for you

Right

So too much sacrifice

Is no good because you lose the very thing

That you're trying to sacrifice for

If you lost your whole family

Over it

That's true

That's not good

Not enough sacrifice

Is no good

Because yeah I got a bunch of time with my family

Now we can't do shit

I can't progress to damn family

Because I'm sitting here looking at you to hold damn time

I didn't go to work

Right

So it's that balance between

But the balance is really

It's really not balanced because

If everybody in America works 40 hours a week

How do I plan to get ahead

If I work the same amount of hours as everybody else

Okay

You can but it's difficult

Hard

Okay

I've never been smart enough

I've never been big enough

I've never been good enough

I didn't have a dad to game

I didn't have a head start

So for me

Mine was work

That's how I was going to get ahead of everybody else

That's how I was going to pass up

People that had two good parents and paid for their college

And you know all that stuff

It was going to be working

More than everybody else

That's why

But what people don't understand is a lot of times

Man, sacrifice is just temporary

Like I don't have to sacrifice as much time as I used to anymore

But I'm left with the result

And the life that's been built

So people don't understand

Sometimes sacrifice to create opportunity

Is just temporary sacrifice to live the rest of your life

The way that you want to live

It's temporary

Would you give up five years

To live the next 50 years

And pass on a legacy

Or not

You know what I mean

That's the difference

And really giving up five years

It's not like you got to leave for five years

Like this is another thing that keeps shit in perspective for me

As I go back

And I don't want to shout the names out

But I go back to close friends of ours that we know

We know a bunch

But the ones that I'm talking about

You know because you drove me

To go visit them in prison for five years

Didn't get to see their kids

It weren't building a business

They weren't coming out building something

So if they could do five years

In prison behind bars

And still come out and own a business

And be a dad

Why can I not invest five years of my life

And get to sleep in my house every day and day

And see my kids on the weekends

And not compare it to

I got it better than this person

But now I built something for these people

It's all perspective

This is a passionate subject

Hopefully I'm not over the top for people

But this is a passionate one for me

I bleed this

Dude

Do you think every successful man, which I'm sure, had to sacrifice something at some point

in time in their life to get to where they want to be at?

Yes.

Every single one.

I don't want to be the dead horse.

Every single one of everyone.

What do you think a pro athlete sacrificed the most since you used to play pro athlete?

What do you think their sacrifices could be?

I think time.

Same thing.

Same stuff.

We had Taro Edmonds in here the other day.

We were just talking about Tressel.

You know what I mean?

The pro athlete, but he was a coach of pro athletes.

We had Shazir in here and he talked about meeting Tom and at six o'clock in the morning

and going all day.

You know what I mean?

And stuff.

So I think they give up time and guess how many weekends they work.

Half the year.

Half the year.

You know what I'm saying?

It's like, oh, I want to be a pro athlete.

Okay.

Well, you have a 16 game football season.

How about LeBron?

Yeah.

All got it easier than basketball basketball.

They're they got multiple games a week and they're flying all over the country football.

You got 16 games.

Eight of them are at the casa.

Yeah.

Eight of them are away.

So you got a eight time, but you work every weekend, 16, but then you got a not 17 and

you got a preseason.

So that's 22.

Now if you make the playoff, so when the Super Bowl has 27, 28 weeks because you get

a week off in between that for the Super Bowl.

So you're working more than half of the year.

You're working weekends and that don't even count whatever.

I'm sure they got to sign an autograph for see a kid in the hospital or something.

So you're probably to be a pro athlete.

You're sacrificing in the football realm and in baseball all of it.

You're probably sacrificing half to three quarters of your weekends to be a pro athlete.

But every boy wants to be a pro athlete though.

This is what it means, but this is what I mean by perspective dog.

This is what people got to check them self on mentally.

Like you want to make pro athlete money do what pro athletes do.

Work some weekends.

Work after weekends and see where your life is at six months from today, two years from

today, four years from today.

You know what I mean?

Encourage yourself on that perspective of the way that you're looking at things and who

you're doing it for and why you're doing those things.

But just understand there is no way and it's not a hard line of, yeah, I don't want to sacrifice

because I don't want to get a divorce look, man.

I know a lot of people, it's like you damned if you do, you damned if you don't.

I know some people that lost their wife because they wasn't ambitious enough.

Wife like, I don't want to do it to slaysie cat no more.

Is that one go to work?

Right.

So every person that is home at two o'clock in the afternoon every day, there's no statistic

that shows me marriages are more successful 90% of the time if you're home at two o'clock

in the afternoon.

They would have it if that was the truth.

There is no such thing.

It's all on the person.

It's all on that individual.

Can you make it all go around?

You absolutely can make it all go around.

But then you got to plan it, organize it, stick to it, discipline, you know what I mean?

And the sacrifice needs to be no bullshit.

So if you are running low on time to get the job done, like, I don't got time to be just

bullshit and around.

No bullshit.

And see their work or family.

It's either work or this.

And you know if I sacrifice some stuff for myself, jujitsu and stuff, it's six o'clock

in the morning, seven o'clock in the morning, most of the time.

Because I don't want to take it from, I ain't taking it from them.

They're sleeping.

Taking it from me.

You know what I mean?

Sure.

How does having the sacrifice humble you?

Well I think the biggest thing that humbles me is realizing that every year I look back

and realize that I'm not, I'm better now than I was a year ago.

So I look at it like man.

I wasn't as good as I thought I was three years ago.

And if I knew what I knew now, we would have crushed it more three years ago.

I think my, you know, being married humbles me.

Sure.

Because you're a partner.

Yep.

In business, when you have a partner, it's like a marriage and it's hard to have a partnership

because it's now not everything I want.

It's what the hell do we want?

Right.

Exactly.

And it's give and take.

That's humbling.

Because if you want to make any relationship work, she got to humble herself to give me

what I want.

Sometimes or do what I want.

And so it's like it's humbling for everybody to go to the next level.

You know, those things humble and then I'm telling you man, I've had to be humble.

This is a big one.

I've had to be humble in our business for others because they don't have enough humility

themselves.

So if my ego went to where I wanted it to go or where it was naturally at and they

already got a big ego, we would clash and be gone.

Yeah, sure.

And it's really, it's for both of, it's for everybody because we're better as a business,

you know, and they're better, you know, because of us, we're better because of them.

But I know where we would be regardless.

And it's looking at it and saying, man, I've had to just humble myself and say, look, what

is it going to cost you, bro?

Other than your pride.

To just let it roll for, give it four or five years, give it two, three years, let these

people mature, bro.

It ain't a big deal.

It's just hurt your ego.

It hurts your pride a little bit.

Drives you crazy.

But give them five, give them 10, give them two, give them three.

And then you look back and maybe they'll look back when they say, man, I appreciate how

you did that and how much it had to take for you to be patient.

And then they do it for somebody else.

And then they do it for somebody else.

Just like you look back at older people or your parents are saying, man, I'm not

going to say, man, I would have slapped the shit out of my old self.

Or you know what I mean?

Or why was my mother so patient with me?

Or why did that person never give up on me?

Or whatever?

Down the road you realize it.

But that's been one of the major ones that was, you know, been humbling for me was

just to force myself to humble myself in the business.

That's from that lease.

You being a friend of mine.

What would you say I should sacrifice more?

You.

Yeah.

Oh, y'all throw this at me and I didn't even get a chance to think.

Um, what do I think you should sacrifice more?

I think you already started to sacrifice the food because you lost 100 pounds.

Okay.

So I definitely did that much more.

You ain't going to be big.

I'm like, bro, you got to slow down.

You're going to be medium sized.

Make me eat now.

You like though, eat something.

I don't want you to get too small.

Right.

You know what I'm saying?

Because you, you're my boy and we row together.

So I get a free bodyguard looking because people use big, scary looking.

You know what I mean?

When you're 400 pounds, you're real scary looking.

Now 300 pounds.

With a smile, you kind of scary looking.

You go to 200 brother.

That's it.

That's it.

You know what I mean?

So I would say don't sacrifice the food.

Yeah.

I think you know what?

What did I tell you need to sacrifice this?

I'm going to give you two of them.

What do you think you need to sacrifice?

What did I tell you?

You need to sacrifice in the car.

Black and mouse.

I said, you got to sacrifice them.

Black and mouse dog.

I think you got to sacrifice them.

Black and mouse, bro.

And I think you're, I think you're already hard working and stuff.

I think we just got to keep sacrificing hard work and sacrifice the young.

Come move up to Pittsburgh like I told you.

That'd be the next one.

I think.

Well, that's it, man.

We wrapped it up today.

Mr. Aries.

Why don't you close it out today?

On it.

Sacrifice.

Close it out.

You know what I'm saying?

Let's get ready.

It's a new day.

Count money, man.

I'm stuck.

Riches.

I'm trying to told him I'm a beast.