Patience In The Process

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Welcome back to another episode of The Grindcast.

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And we're going to dive in talking a little bit about having patients in the process

on your way to the prize because the world and I love social.

I'm all about, you know, there's negatives and positives about social media.

And I think there's definitely a lot of negatives about social media.

But I think there's also a lot of positives about social media.

So is life, right?

So you play the hand at your dealt.

And so I think one of the negatives on behalf of like the end of social media is it tricks

people into thinking that it has to come easy and anybody can lie.

So you can lie and just look cool on social media and look like it happened overnight and

make it seem like it's real easy.

And so all these other people that are out there in the process are thinking something

got to be wrong, you know, with me because the world has a way of tricking us into thinking

that things should be easy and overnight success.

You know, the marketing of the winner at the casino that won a million dollars, not marketing

all the people that lost their paychecks in their homes or the lottery winner, you know,

that was 300 million or you know, 400 million or somebody that did get lucky with immediate

success in business.

There are people that win the lottery.

There are people that have this, you know, they bought a house in the middle of nowhere

and all of a sudden there's mineral rights under there and they become a, and so people

start trying to think that that's the game you're supposed to play.

And in my experience, that ends up getting you cut short.

That ends up, that's the lottery deal of, you know, I know people that, and I'm not knocking

the hustle, but I know people that will go all out, you know, the lottery went from,

you know, recently I forget what it was, 300 million, it was up to like 800 million

or a billion.

And I'm telling somebody, you know, I had somebody close to me that was playing a lottery

all the time and I'm like, you know, what's the difference between if you want it for 300

million or you want it for 800 million, you're still rich.

And so just because it went to 800 million, don't mean you should start, you got to play

every day now because there's an extra 500 million in there.

If I gave you 300 million a day, I mean, you're in a really good position.

And so I know a lot of folks out there that played a lottery consistently and, you know,

some have won, a lot haven't won.

And you look at, well, if you're playing 20 bucks a day, 30 days a month, you know,

$600 a month, $7,000 a year, 20 years, you know, $140,000.

And the interest that could have been gained, you know, on that, you know, man, up being,

you know, if we worked a math out half a million dollars plus that could have been in your

bank account or savings account or a million dollars, you know, probably you start working

those numbers out long enough.

And you know, I think that's just the whole mindset of a lot of people in general is what

really works for sure that I know that I've witnessed that I've watched a lot of people

be successful in doing is the daily disciplines focused over and over and over and over and

over again, that compound over years until one day, it appears that that person is an

overnight success.

It's the fighter that is making $100,000 a fight.

Now that 10 years ago could barely put gas in their car that's putting in three hours a

day of training and three hours a day, driving all over the place for weeks at a time, months

at a time, years at a time long after everybody gave up and called him crazy, consistently

compounding over time that now is winning a decade later.

And so that's the stuff that usually wins.

It's your effort that you do day in and day out that doesn't seem like it's getting you

very far that frustrates most people because they don't have the patience in the process.

And so that's why so many people that could have more success don't is because they're

jumping from one thing to the next, one focus to the next.

As soon as it gets too hard over here, we're switching it and going over here.

And then it's going to get hard over there.

It's the same thing that I've learned in relationship advice, you know, from good mentors is, hey,

you know, there's going to be a point in your relationship where both of you guys

are sick of each other's shit.

And you could start looking at this person and saying, man, I love 80% of them, but

20% of them I wish I could change.

And then you go to the person, you leave that person and you go to the person that had

that 20% that you wish that you could have changed and the other person, they got that.

And so you go to that person and now all of a sudden you like 80% about them, but there's

20% that you wish you could change over there.

And then you go through the honeymoon stage and everything is good.

And then you're left with with reality of people are imperfect, including yourself.

So you have to stand on what are the morals and values and key ingredients that are non-negotiables

in the relationship, seek out those things in a person and be ready to be flexible in everything

else because none of us is perfect and things are going to take time, things are going to

have challenges.

And so business and life is the exact same way.

It's, you know, putting your all into something consistently and letting it compound over time.

And if you keep quitting everything and starting over for the next easiest thing, you keep

going through honeymoon stages and you waste a lot of time.

But more importantly, that compounding interest stops and you got to start over.

If you continuously try shortcuts, you end up getting cut short.

And what the key is is the double down on doing the right things in the process and those

things are going to compound over time.

And so compounding interest, you know, for those you guys that are missing what I'm saying,

is if you were to look at a million dollars and you get 10% interest on that million

dollars, then every seven years, your money would double.

That would calm, that's compounding interest over time.

And so that's without any more work.

So today, if you had a million, you invested it and you could just get 10% seven years

later, it's worth two million.

Seven years after that, it's worth four million, seven years after that, it's worth eight

million.

So basically over a 21 year period, your one million would go to eight million with no more

work done, just letting time progress.

That's compounding interest.

The tough thing is building up to the million and then having the patients to allow it to

compound and not lose money.

You know, number one Warren Buffett's number one rule about money is to not lose money.

That's number one, don't lose money.

And so in the process of trying to make so much money, people can get greedy and they lose

money.

And the process of trying to make your life perfect, you get greedy and look for the other

man or other girl and you lose your money.

You lose the person that you had that was right, that wasn't 100% and then the same

thing in business is people always looking for the easiest route is they stop the compounding

interest and you end up losing what you had because you didn't have the patience to

hit a single.

Everything has to be a home run.

Wanting a home run is normal.

Everybody wants to hit home runs.

But usually when you're learning from people, home runs happen just by having the right

swing and the right timing and enough reps and usually the more you try to hit a home run

all the time, sometimes you don't.

Wanting a home run is normal, but games are consistently one and singles and doubles one

base at a time like life.

It's like engulf.

It's not how hard you swing and believe me, I am a long way from giving anybody too much

of advice in golf.

I am at the very beginning stages like 80 year olds hit it further than me.

But what I've learned enough is engulf.

They keep telling me it's not how hard that I swing.

It's the technique that takes thousands of reps in order to master it.

You just got to keep showing up, keep swinging and making sure that you're swinging with

the right technique, focusing on doing the fundamentals well is what consistently wins

games.

Being married to the process and being patient and the prize will eventually come to you

and the prize creates stability when it's built upon the process as opposed to shortcuts

on luck.

So if you're looking to build something, you know, you can build a house of bricks or you

can build a house of cards.

And the house of cards goes up quicker and you could even make it look cool.

But when the wind blows and the storm comes, it's usually not left standing.

And so you got to ask yourself, am I trying to build a life of a house of cards or my building

a life of a house of bricks on a solid foundation in the solid foundation, just like when you

look at building a solid foundation, the taller the building you want to build, the deeper

down you have to dig.

And so if you want to build a skyscraper, you got to dig down real deep first in the

mud, in the dirt, in the process, bunch of work going on to get the foundation laid in

order to build something that big.

But if you're in a rush, you could have built a nice house real quick, a nice building

real quick, real fast would have been done.

And everybody would say, wow, look what you built.

I see the result from your labor so quickly.

But if you try to build a skyscraper like that, you have to dig down deep in the mud,

in the dirt, get all the foundation right because you can't build something big on a

weak ass foundation.

And weak ass foundations are all that gets built in the shortcuts that people try to take

in whatever the process is.

And then they find themselves deep in their life, trying to build this foundation now or

realizing it or hopefully realizing it.

When really you just got to pay the frickin price right now, you got to build the foundation

right now.

And building the foundation is not sexy, but it'll be sexy 10 years from today.

Building the foundation is not sexy, but it'll be sexy five years from today.

And so can you dig down and create the stability in your life that you're going to want five

years from today, in which is built on the process opposed to shortcuts so you can create

the stability and things that you want later on in life.

Because I promise you, the shortcut is always easier.

The shortcut is always for right now.

Man, this person's pissing you off.

Go get with the side piece, the shortcut right now for the next month.

Great time.

Fun for you.

But is it fun five years from today?

Is it fun 10 years from today?

The shortcut in the process is always more fun and more intriguing and more enticing and

more sexy and attractive right now.

So you have to have enough 10 toes on the ground, enough fortitude, enough stability,

enough discipline to consistently show up in the non-glorious grind, the non-glorious

process that's going to lead you to where it is that you want to be.

So I just want to encourage you guys out there that are up with me doing this thing.

I just want to encourage you in your process and look at how long you've been doing something

and maybe look at how far you've come.

Look how far you've come in two years.

Look how far you've come in three years and don't allow yourself.

It's one thing to have ambition and it's another thing to rush the process.

I think another one more in buffer use to say, you don't have a baby in nine months by

getting nine women pregnant in one month, adding up to the nine months, still takes nine

months.

And so you can't rush the process of something.

That's the difference is and when you look at it even the baby, the process, like the

person that's behind the wheel right now, the 16 year old that just got their driver's

license, they started out in somebody's belly and had to go through the process of learning

how to walk, learning how to talk, learning the English vocabulary or whatever their language

is and walking and falling down and walking and falling down and learning how to feed

themselves, learning how to bathe themselves.

That's a process.

And it's it's always work, but it's more work in the beginning.

It's harder to take care of children like, like I've been in the baby stays now, stage

three times.

My son, who's 19 months right now, that is a little bit more difficult of a challenge.

You know, and I have, I'm not the star player in this challenge.

My wife and them are the star players, but in my role as a father and what I've witnessed

and what I've been a part of, like the heart is hard in that 19 month stage.

They're down to do.

whatever, you got to keep them from killing themselves basically.

They would jump off the deck, jump down the stairs,

off the couch, whatever, you got to keep them from killing

themselves in that process.

Can't do a lot for themselves.

Can't heat anything up, can't bathe themselves,

can't wipe themselves, can't, you know,

none of that stuff.

So it's a lot of freaking work.

But you got to have the vision that one day,

the baby's going to take care of himself.

One day he'll be able to walk.

One day they'll be able to talk.

One day they'll be able to feed themselves.

One day they'll be able to bathe themselves.

One day they'll be able to,

but you got to put the work in day by day.

You know, people tell you,

oh man, it goes by fast.

People that got kids, goes by fast.

Yeah, the years go by fast, but the days go by slow.

And so if you're out there in the process

of having a couple young kids

and you haven't slept for a couple nights

because you're in that process,

it don't seem like it goes by fast.

But everybody knows that it does.

And so the same thing in your life,

it don't seem like it's going by fast for you

when you're in the process until you look up and,

man, I've been doing this for five years

or I got here five years later.

If you keep gaining inches in letting them compound,

good things are gonna happen for you without beating yourself.

Don't go backwards out of rushing the process

and where you're at and good things

are gonna happen down the road, all right?

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